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Better Relationships
through Better Communication
Because everyone wants
respect
Would
you like to:
Iimprove
your relationships?
Your partnering? Your
parenting?
Increase your ability
to meet your own needs
and understand the
needs of others?
Be
better at negotiating
and making effective
requests?
We can
help!
KPCC's Compassionate
Communication Program
We are a Charleston WV
based training site to
promote the practice
of
conscious,
compassionate,
non-violent
communication.
Our
program uses the
skills developed by
Marshall Rosenburg
in his book Non
Violent Communication
(NVC)
KPCC's
Ccompassionate
Communication Programs
helps to teach
individuals, couples,
and groups the tools
of
accurate understanding, respectful
negotiation,
and deepening
connection with self
and others.
Click
here for our
Calendar of Events and
Trainings
in Charleston
Click here
for printable flier of
upcoming events:
Printable Flier of
Current Schedule
If you
are new to Compassionate
Communication
we encourage you to join
our NVC Practice Email
list.
This list provides
information about
up-coming events,
as well as gentle
reminders, tips, and
encouragement
for using the NVC model in
your daily life.
To read
more about the NVC
model,
click here
Workshops
Central
to how we teach
Compassionate
Communication are our
workshop offerings.
We find that teaching
in groups is a great
way to learn because
of the conversations,
examples, and
encouragement that the
groups members offer
one another.
Practice is the basis
of learning this
model, and the
workshops are practice
sessions.
Our
workshop topics include:
-
Intro to
Compassionate
Communication
-
Basics of
Compassionate
Communication
Course using NVC
-
Respectful
Negotiations
using NVC
-
Peaceful Parenting
-
Monthly Practice
Groups
We offer several
related workshops:
-
Problem Solving
using Appreciative
Inquiry
-
Tool of
Communication
-
Tools of
Negotiation
-
Reacting vs.
Responding
-
Heart Gratitude
and HeartMath
bio-feedback
If you
would like to host a
workshop,
we
are
available to
meet
with your group at
your location.
Please call Rose Ann
Hefner at KPCC,
346-9689, for more
information.
Core Workshop
Descriptions
-
Basic
Compassionate Communication
Course using NVC
This is
the heart of our
offerings: a five or six session
course
meeting over several weeks.
More information on this
course can be found below.
We will sometimes do
courses around special
themes:
-
Peaceful Parenting
-
Couples Communication
-
Compassion in the
Classroom
-
Mini-Intensive weekend
course
-
Monthly Practice Group
KPCC hosts a mmonthly Conscious
Communication Practice
Group
We
meet the
4th Tuesday of every
month at KPCC, 6:00 to
7:30 pm.
KPCC is located at
First Presbyterian
Church of Charleston,
Suite 310.
Everyone is welcome,
there is no charge.
KPCC's Basic Compassionate
Communication Course
Compassionate
Communication, also
known as Nonviolent
Communication
(NVC),
is a set of tools
designed to help
foster compassion and
understanding both
within ourselves and
others. These tools
can be used
therapeutically, in
conflict situations,
or in everyday
conversation.
Rather than the
frequent style of
ordinary communication
which often involves
making judgments or
evaluations followed
by demands,
NVC
delineates
four components of
communication:
observation,
identification of
feelings, sharing of
met or unmet needs,
making requests.
In
the basic class we
will help participants
learn the skills to
make careful
observations free of
evaluation, and to
specify behaviors and
conditions that are
affecting us. We learn
to hear our own deeper
needs and those of
others, and to
identify and clearly
articulate what we are
wanting in a given
moment. While this is
an easy model, we have
found apply it takes
mindfulness and
practice!
We
usually teach the
course in five or six
sessions over as many
weeks. The classes are
usually 90 minutes
each. We also teach
the course in day long
sessions.
Using NVC we often
find that when we
focus on clarifying
what is being
observed, felt, and
needed, rather than on
diagnosing and
judging, we discover
the depth of our own
compassion. Through
its emphasis on deep
listening—to ourselves
as well as others—NVC
fosters respect,
attentiveness and
empathy, and engenders
a mutual desire to
give from the heart.
The form is simple,
yet powerfully
transformative.
Watch
a
short
video presentation
about
nonviolent
communication,
featuring NVC founder
Marshall Rosenburg
Feedback from Charleston Participants
-
"I
talked to
my
boyfriend
tonight,
after our meeting
today, and
things went way better
than
i
expected. I think he
even agreed with what
i was saying which
made me feel really
good. Thank You!"
-- HS student
Locations of
Presentations
We
prefer to come to your
congregation or
organization with a
Compassionate
Compassionate presentation.
We
also present some of
our workshops at
KPCC's
main office, which is
located at
First Presbyterian
Church, 16 Leon
Sullivan Way, Suite
310, Charleston, WV
We are interested in
getting this program
out into the community
as much as possible!
Calendar, Schedule, Costs
"All of life boils
down to being able to
communicate."
- Becky Baily
Kanawha United Presbyterian hosts Pilot Project
Our
Conscious Communication
pilot project was hosted by
Kanawha United Presbyterian
Church
in June 2007. Members of the
first group included (left to
right) Steve Payne, Diana Masso, Gina Rugeley, Sr.
Rosie Hefner, Marjorie Cook, Peggy
Londeree,
Dr. Ed Woodall , Rev. John
Davis
Interested in hosting the next
group?
Call us at 346-9689.
Our vision
Our
vision of
Conscious
Communication at
KPCC is to
incorporate
the principles and
practices of NVC
into the fabric of
daily life.
Our staff
is specifically trained in the skill and practice of NVC.
Our core staff
includes:
- Sister Rose Ann
Hefner, Program
Coordinator
- Rev. Sky
Kershner
-
Diana Masso
-
Ann
Martin
-
Sabrina Rollins
Invitation
We invite all interested people and
organizations to contact us, learn about Nonviolent Communication and
join us in our mission of promoting peace, eliminating violence and
working through conflict by systematically using NVC in
the greater Kanawha Valley area and
beyond.
Each person’s
life is enriched as he
or she
is in fulfilling and
satisfying relationships with
others.
Satisfying
relationships are made
possible when there is
effective communication
between persons.
Ideas for
effective communication
are
modeled, taught, and
practiced in the Conscious
Communications workshops.
- .
-
Contact
-
-
Sister Rose
Ann Hefner
-
Compassionate
Communication Program
Coordinator
Kanawha Pastoral Counseling Center
- 16 Leon Sullivan Way, Suite 300
Charleston, WV 25301
-
304-346-9689
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What is Non-violent
Communication? *
Nonviolent
Communication, also
known as Compassionate
Communication, is a
set of tools designed
to help foster
compassion and
understanding both
within ourselves and
others. These tools
can be used
therapeutically, in
conflict situations,
or in everyday
conversation.
Rather than the
frequent style of
ordinary communication
which often involves
making judgements or
evaluations followed
by demands, NVC
delineates four
components of
communication:
1) Observations
free of
evaluations;
2) Feelings
straight from the
heart;
3) Needs, values
and longings; and
4) Requests
expressed clearly
in positive action
language.
We
are trained to make
careful observations
free of evaluation,
and to specify
behaviors and
conditions that are
affecting us. We learn
to hear our own deeper
needs and those of
others, and to
identify and clearly
articulate what we are
wanting in a given
moment. When we focus
on clarifying what is
being observed, felt,
and needed, rather
than on diagnosing and
judging, we discover
the depth of our own
compassion. Through
its emphasis on deep
listening—to ourselves
as well as others—NVC
fosters respect,
attentiveness and
empathy, and engenders
a mutual desire to
give from the heart.
The form is simple,
yet powerfully
transformative.
But I'm not
Violent!
(from our friends
at the NVC
Academy: http://nvctraining.com/)
I’m not a violent
person, so what
can the NVC
process offer me?
This is a
common question
when people read
the term
“Nonviolent
Communication.”
The word
"nonviolent" in
Nonviolent
Communication
refers to the term
as Gandhi used it
when he spoke of
the absence of
violence in the
human heart. In
Nonviolent
Communication or
NVC, we recognize
that certain
language
dehumanizes other
people, or
disconnects or
dissociates us
from those people.
NVC seeks to keep
us connected to
what is alive
within us and
other people.
NVC allows us
to:
Value
everyone’s
needs equally.
Know that
every action
or word is an
attempt to
meet a need.
Most people refer
to violence as
physically trying
to hurt another.
In the NVC process
we also consider
violence to be any
use of power over
people, or trying
to coerce people
into doing things.
That would include
any use of
motivating others
by fear of
punishment and
promise of reward,
or any use of
guilt, shame, duty
or obligation.
Violence in this
larger sense is
defined as any use
of force (verbal
or physical) to
get people to do
things, or any
system that
includes
structures that
support this
“power-over”
paradigm.
Nonviolent
Communication is a
life affirming
approach to
communicating with
others.
It creates a world
of
conscious
communication, where
communication skills
become life-enriching
tools,
emotional intelligence
is valued over
intellectual analysis,
and published
self-help books and
booklets deliver
practical, real-world
outcomes.
Nonviolent
Communication (NVC) is
a life-changing way of
interacting that
facilitates the flow
of communication
needed to exchange
information and
resolve differences
peacefully. With its
focus on human
feelings and needs,
the practice of
NVC emphasizes
emotional intelligence
over intellectual
analysis in expressing
what’s going on in
people. With its
reliance on objective
observations rather
than evaluations
NVC avoids making
people defend
themselves
from value-laden
judgments. And
finally, by employing
clear requests in
place of demands,
NVC raises the bar for
communication skills
by allowing everyone
to get their needs met
on their own terms,
without coercion, fear
of retribution, or
loss of self-esteem.
For
more info on NVC go
to:
Watch
a
short
video presentation about
nonviolent communication.
Read more
About NVC and the
History of NVC.
Learn about the mission of the
International
Center for Nonviolent
Communication.
The
Basics of NVC handout:
Basics of Nonviolent
Communication (PDF)
*
*
From
our friends at Capitol
NVC:
http://www.capitolnvc.org/aboutnvc
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